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4 things to ask ourselves before we speak (or write)

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Greek philosopher Socrates, spiritual teacher Eknath Easwaran and American radio host Bernard Meltzer have variously said:
Before we speak we must ask ourselves these four simple questions — 
Is it true? 
Is it kind? 
Is it necessary? 
Is it helpful? 
If the answer is no, maybe what we are about to say—or write, post or share in these trigger-happy WhatsApp times—should be left unsaid. 
By embracing these values, we can cultivate an attitude of thoughtful and mindful communication, both online and offline—for ourselves and others.
© PocketfulofHappiness


It's so important to think carefully before we speak or write. The damage that words can do can last a lifetime, even after an apology. Just that little bit of filtering before speaking/writing can make all the difference.

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Margot, thank you for commenting. True, hurtful words, once uttered, can never be reversed and they can spoil relationships forever. The four rules are even more essential now, in these 24/7 social media and WhatsApp times.

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